Involuntary vaginal spasms often not allowing sexual contact.
Past trauma, or insufficient sexual preparation or nourishment internally.
Spasms in general are due to magnesium depletion; maybe need to have a lot more touching.
Need to undo your Stuck Liver Qi.
Moxa sacral fan and butt massage found here.
Get active.
See an acupuncturist, use BBT to check if due to low thyroid function – also see lichen scerolosis.
Use magnesium orally and topically on buttocks – at least 6 times daily;
Take more care with nutrient dense food – lots of fat and Vit D to allow for micro mineral absorption.